Current dynamics at work in US politics highlight the false idea that our nation will ever be truly the “United States” while the call to unify is based on opposition to some identified opponent, here or abroad. Check out the pattern prevalent in US history. You will see example after example of groups of various descriptions supposedly uniting in opposition to the identified opponent of their day only to have their “unity” disintegrate once the occasion for opposition ends. Today we see this pattern at work in our presidential election as two main parties call for unity within themselves by clarifying and rally around their opposition to the “other” party. Within our republican form of government where one vote more than 50% wins all the marbles, this practice works temporarily to put some people temporarily in power but is not a sustainable practice for the welfare of the nation or the world we so heavily impact.
We have become participants in this pattern as if it is the only option available. The media hypes this pattern in order to gain market share and profit from the controversies it helps stir up by sensationalizing them moment by moment as entertainment. Are we truly entertained by watching our nation cycle through this pattern of futility decade after decade? Do we truly want to elect and empower men and women to lead us around and around in this pattern without hope for any alternative of true, universal, national unity? Where might we find the common ground for sustainable unity not based temporarily on identifying an enemy abroad or at home?
We will find that common ground buried beneath the rumble of painful emotions we harbor in our hearts. We harbor them out of ignorance. We neither know how to release these painful emotions and the memories seared into our brains by pain or to establish the noncyclical stability of peace we’d prefer “if only.” But we can overcome our ignorance if we truly want to. We can learn what we need to learn. It is not beyond our capacity to learn. It’s actually child’s play, more natural to children than to adults but still within the capacity of adults to relearn. Adults do struggle with issues and responsibilities by which children are not typically burdened, although many children are bearing such burdens these days in earlier and earlier years. In failing to release our emotional pain in caring, healthy ways so as to discover how to enjoy sustainable peace (domestic tranquility instead of domestic violence in all its forms), we are dumping our buried pain on children and expecting them not to be harmed by being dumped upon.
Buried pain, like harmful toxic waste, leeches from the dumps where we think we safely bury it to contaminate the waters of life within which we expect our children and ourselves to swim and find clean water to drink and bathe in. Our buried pain poisons our lives and robs us of the most enriching qualities of life we’d otherwise enjoy. We must cease to use our hearts as waste dumps for toxic emotions. To cease to participate in this pattern, we must learn to grieve through our pain and find peace again beyond it. In our present state, our society allows no one to avoid experiencing pain. Thus, we all must learn to release pain as a necessary life skill. To fail to master this skill means to guarantee that the pain will pass along to the next generation for them to deal with.
We adults must stand up for protecting our children from the pain we’ve not yet processed, stand up as adults before us likely did not do for us. In some period of our history, the cycle of pain must stop. Our current generations of adults can be that time. The cycle can wind down and be replaced with healthier conditions if we are willing to participate fully in those conditions. It’s up to us to have the courage, compassion, commitment, creativity and curiosity to discover again how to cooperate with each other in unity about this process. It is a process that requires no opponents and instead welcomes all to participate. By definition, grief is universal to us all. We can stand together not in opposition to pain but in unified commitment to learning how to release pain in all its forms and reasons for existing.
Pain need not be as prevalent as it is. It need not be endured forever as we’ve been taught to believe. We can learn to stop perpetuating it. To release our personal pain one person at a time releases the nation from pain. Let’s help each other enter into a process of grieving through the lifetime of pain we’ve endured as dumping grounds for other people’s pain and unite in peace beyond our pain. Peace will not come immediately because the process of grief must allow time to identify, express and share our buried pain for healing and release to happen. But our commitment to the process of grieving is enough to ensure peace will come in time.
Peace is actually our natural state of being. It is the tender condition that exists within our hearts but is now buried beneath the rumble of the patterns of opposition we’ve endured. We have the power within us to seek no longer to engage in artificial reasons to perpetuate our pain and instead to free ourselves of the rumble and return to our natural state of peace and goodwill among all peoples – of every age, gender, station in life and other demographic parameter by which we measure ourselves. Let’s now measure ourselves as peacemakers and peace-sustainers instead of as participants in the internal warfare to which politics currently calls us under the mistaken notion that that’s the only way. There is another way. It leads to the end of suffering for us all. Might not that outcome motivate us all to explore this possibility?
© Art Nicol 2016