When you feel like your life has become an emotional pressure cooker, my services as a Faith Consultant and Coach may help you not only find relief but also make great progress in personal growth. The pressure cooker generated by acute pain and confusion piled atop chronic stress can become an incredibly productive opportunity for personal growth. All that is required is a large dose of devotion to your own best interests mixed well within a solution of helpful resources developed as your personal health tonic. The healthy energy boost you both need and desire becomes available to you as you seek it intentionally, with renewed faith in your personal value and capacity to overcome pain, confusion and stress to rise again on even better terms than you’ve encountered in the past. In short, as some would put it, miracles of personal benefit to you are waiting around the corner for you if you’ll move forward by faith in their presence even before you see, hear, smell, taste or feel them. It may sound too cliché, but here’s the silver lining in life’s storm clouds that threaten to overwhelm you with grief.
Miracles of relief and personal growth are not at first physical. They begin to form by faith in energy realms beyond the physical dimension – realms invisible to our physical senses but accessible by faith. Perhaps even as you read this article, an inner sense within the core of your being is resonating, tingling with that “knowing” bell that rings when you encounter Truth. Because the Miracle Provider has faith in you, the miracles you need are already simmering on the Divine Stove even before you may decide to have faith in yourself and the Source of Miracles. As your faith grows, it encounters the faithfulness of others and of the One from Whom all Faith flows and the reconnected world of faith opens doors for you through which miracles enter your life to comfort, heal and bless.
Stress and tension are normal features of healthy life. For example, the tension between a relatively drier atmosphere and a relatively wetter inside of a plant draws moisture from the plant into the atmosphere in an attempt to arrive at an equal distribution of moisture inside and outside of the plant. Because a plant is designed to release moisture from its leaves through transpiration, the attempt to equalize humidity levels occurs at leaves. Moisture leaves at the leaves! This departure of moisture increases the tension inside of the plant between moisture levels lower down the plant’s channels and at the leaves where moisture is escaping. By a natural process, moisture is then moved gradually along the plant’s inner channels towards the leaves from the roots. If moisture is available in the soil around the roots, it is draw into the plant’s inner channels through the roots and moves towards the leaves where it eventually exits. As moisture moves along the plant’s channels, it carries nutrients from the soil throughout the plant and carries the products of photosynthesis and other chemical reactions throughout the plant as well. In this manner, the stress of differing tensions helps the plant maintain health and is not destructive to the plant’s health.
In similar ways, tension can play helpful roles in human life. For example, if our mind encounters a problem that we don’t know how to solve, the problem’s existence creates a tension within us that we can feel as a desire to know the solution to the problem. If the problem has little value to us, the tension is relatively slight, perhaps even nonexistent. We encounter a lot of problems throughout our lives that have little or no value to us and cause little or no tension or hunger to solve them. However, when we value a solution to a problem greatly, we invest a lot of emotions in “not knowing” the answer. The tension resulting from “not knowing” rises as our emotional investment in solving the problem rises. Being exposed for a long time to emotionally troubling unsolved problems generates chronic stress, an abiding sense of being stressed out under intense tension with little hope of relief. Sometimes we adjust to chronic stress by ignoring it and doing our best to survive without knowing the solution we’d prefer to know. Sometimes a newly arriving problem reminds us that we’d still like to solve the “big one” that has long caused us chronic stress and, although supposedly ignored, left us feeling vaguely tense in our bodies, minds and hearts.
Fear of the unknown is a fear common to all humans. It is a fear that causes tension and stress until we learn to be comfortable in the presence of mysteries we’ve not yet learned to solve. Fear of the unknown can be coupled with fear of change (and perhaps accompanying fears of loss of control and powerlessness), the combination of which causes us to feel paralyzed or mired in stagnation, discontent with the status quo but unable to move forward in any direction to find and implement the change we’d prefer. Or that same combination can cause us to become overactive, chasing our tails in search of a solution not to be found in our nose-to-tail closed circle of futility.
Fear-inducing dilemmas appear like unsolvable puzzles to our minds. We feel caught on the horns of a dilemma without relief from the painful confusion it causes. It can even feel like a form of torture because we’d much prefer relief from the pain and confusion and don’t know how to find it. Because we’ve learned to take pride in our competence-driven achievements, we feel ashamed at having too little competence to solve The Problem. We may even feel like extreme failures or losers for becoming skewered on the horns of such dilemmas in the first place, as if no winner ever faced them without overcoming them on his or her own.
The truth is that dilemmas arise periodically in everyone’s life because they are a natural consequence of growing on account of one’s experiences. Every person who has ever discovered increasingly rewarding and enriching ways to live life has faced challenging dilemmas and resolved them satisfactorily according to his or her own values and priorities. One key factor in finding such resolutions seems like a paradox: that is, that the door through which one must pass to find life’s deepest satisfactions is opened by a mechanism called “interdependence” or “collaboration.” The door remains closed so long as we continue to resort only to self-reliance or independence as individuals and refuse to trust anyone to assist us in opening the door.
As we stand before such a door in the middle of a tension-filled, dilemma-plagued phase of our life, we can knock and probe for access points on our own without success in opening the door – no matter how great our individual competences and achievements may be in other realms of life. It may seem like magic but it’s really a matter of faith. So long as we stand in front of such a door demanding “I want inside! Open up for me!” we will be frustrated by the unresponsive silence. Only when we revise our declaration to say “We want inside! Open up for us!” will we hear a reply and find our way into the sanctuary beyond the door. The door to relief from painful confusion opens to “us,” not merely to “me” or “you.” It swings open on multiple hinges, not just on one.
Discovering this truth about multi-hinged doors and their use is one of the primary personal benefits of enduring life’s pressure cooker of faith. The pressure cooker insists that we discover it. The truth that brings relief is “None of us is alone.” Through long training in the ways and myths of self-reliance and independence-at-all-costs, we’ve been misled into believing that we are alone in the world. We may come logically to believe that we were born into the world alone, leave the world alone at the death of the body and have to endure life in between birth and death largely alone too. That’s simply not true. We can try to survive according to that belief for a long time. We may even reach our death bed still believing it. But it’s not true.
If we feel alone, it’s merely because we’ve bought into and not yet re-examined the common social training that assumes such a belief to be true. That an untruth is assumed to be true by many people does not make it true. Truth remains truth whether none, few or many believe it. Believing that we are alone in the face of fearful dilemmas and belief-disrupting problems creates massive stress and tension. The first step in relieving this harmfully stressful tension is to discover that you are not alone in facing anything in life. In fact, you have people ready, willing and able to stand with you as assets and resources to help you, even if you’ve not yet met them. And beyond people in whom you can place trust to help you, there’s a Higher Power waiting for you to invest your faith so that this Higher Power can be helpful too. You don’t have to start out believing in such a Higher Power to benefit from my coaching. This Higher Power believes in you and that’s enough at the beginning if you allow it to be.
Once you recognize that you are under excess pressure and don’t know where to turn for relief, your next step is to seek help until you find competent people you trust, in whom you can place your faith so that your faith in yourself is renewed. It is not an accident that many of the people in whom you discover you can place your faith most securely have already been through tension-filled, heart-rending problems and dilemmas of their own. Such experiences prepared them well to be here for you with the greatest power to help you restore faith in yourself and in humankind. They are also likely to have discovered a renewed or new faith in a divine power greater than ourselves who favors and aids us. They will help you make the same discovery if and when you decide you want to make it.
Copyright Art Nicol 2014